If you live your live with Chronic Pain, you KNOW that it can be SO much harder to do just about everything.. You have to PLAN the simplest tasks… and some things just fall by the wayside… this is one of the most frustrating things I have had to deal with since being ill… I have an easier time accepting my pain than I do facing my limitations.
Ya, sure I have been in bed all week, but it frustrates me to NO end that I cannot do the laundry….
Um, ya, my back is really sore today, but I really WANT to go for coffee with my girlfriend… and I get SO angry when I have to say NO…
Am I alone in this? Are YOU finding it hard to accept your limitations too?
I do NOT believe that we have to “give up” our lives because of our pain… I think that sometimes we simply do not have a choice, BUT when the choice is ours – being a little crafty and a little creative can really make a difference! Let me explain to you what I mean.
This Sunday is my honey’s birthday… 🙂 and it is also my Mom’s birthday as well! What a GREAT day! Last year we didn’t really get to celebrate either birthday because my Pappy passed away, and we had to travel out-of-town to attend the funeral… I felt bad that I didn’t get to do what I had wanted for either of them – they are both such AMAZING people, and they deserve all the love and spoiling I can muster 😉
Fast forward to this year… I have known for a while that I wanted to do something special for my honey this year, but I couldn’t figure out how to do it. I have been in a nasty flare the past few weeks, and because of my medication I am not able to drive… SO here is a limpy sore girl, stuck in her home, and not knowing how she is even going to get to the store to pick out a birthday card, let alone do something memorable… grrr… frustrating… I didn’t want to have another birthday come and go without doing SOMETHING – and then having to feel guilty about it… Let’s be honest, us Chronics have enough to feel guilty over 😉 and if we don’t we make up things.. Guilt and pain go hand in hand… Don’t they?
I had to figure out a way that I could get past my limitations… enter Creativity 🙂
On Wednesday I told my honey to NOT make any plans…. and he proceeded to ask me a million questions as to why.. LOL! He isn’t good at surrendering control at the best of times! I made sure to take all my meds, and ice my neck before we left the house, took some extra things with me in my purse (just in case I had a hard time pacing myself through the afternoon and evening), and at 3:00pm we were on our way!!
We picked up our little dude from school, but my honey had NO idea what to do, or where to go after that… that is when he got his first “clue”, a hand-written letter explaining the process! We took my honey on a treasure hunt of sorts… Think “The Amazing Race”… We picked out 5 destinations that he had to find (thank God for GPS ;)), and at each of the destinations he had to pick out something before that leg of the journey was complete, and then he would be given his next “clue”. IT WAS SO MUCH FUN!!!
The first leg of the trip was to 7-11 for a refreshment of his choice (We got slurpees, he got an iced coffee)
The second leg of the trip was to a designer cupcake store to pick out his favorite cakey treat for dessert! Hello! Red Velvet anyone?!?
Then on to a specialty wine and spirits store – He chose a 16-year-old sipping Whiskey (Yuck… but he thinks it is DIVINE!), something that he has wanted to try for a LONG time, but WOULD NEVER go get for himself.
The next leg of the journey was for the title of “The Amazing Birthday Race Winner”, and the grand prize… We went to pick out a brand new barbeque!
And then FINALLY off to dinner to celebrate!! And I can tell you we ALL had worked up an appetite by then! We had a wonderful dinner, full of conversation about the day, how excited we were to have a barbecue, but most importantly it was a time we could just dedicate to each other without interruption… We finished the evening off with flying paper airplanes in the restaurant’s parking lot before going home to enjoy those wonderful cupcakes!! FANTASTIC!!
What a AMAZING day! I honestly don’t know who enjoyed it more.. My little dude was SO excited, making sure the addresses were put into the GPS correctly, asking my honey a million times – “Do you know where we are going? Do you know where we are going?”.. It was a laugh to see where the GPS was taking us… Some of the routes were definitely.. um… interesting! 😉 And it didn’t feel like we were asking my honey to drive himself to the store to pick out his own present… even though he had to be the chauffeur, it was really fun for him too!
See – a LITTLE bit of creativity…. that’s all you need!! 😉
If funds are tight (which they normally are in situations like ours, especially when we cannot work so a family is living off of one income) the same thing can be achieved but without all the $$. I planned our ‘race’ this way because we had planned on getting a barbecue grill for a long time, and I had it worked into the budget, but it doesn’t have to be expensive! Father’s Day is coming soon, and you could do the same thing, but include a picnic lunch, a trip to a beautiful park, and finish the day off with an ice cream cone from that cute little place just outside the city… or whatever would work for you! Can you think of the possibilities? You can find just about ANY address on the internet, you can write beautiful handwritten notes on some plain paper (and decorate to your heart’s content), and if you don’t have a GPS in your vehicle you can print out maps from Mapquest.com. You can plan a very FULL and wonderful day from the comforts of your own home!!
I must admit, I was really sore by the end of the night – but I had prepared myself for that. And really, it didn’t matter… I am STILL smiling from the experience – and THAT is worth a little bit of pain 😉
I’d love to hear YOUR stories and ideas on how creativity could help you plan for your family! So please share in the comments section!!
One thing is for sure, it is a birthday we won’t soon forget… And the gift wasn’t the “grand prize” – it was the time and laughter we shared with each other, and seeing my honey’s face light up with the simple notion that we had planned this adventure for him… because HE deserves it!! NOW THAT is good medicine!!
Have a WONDERFUL WEEKEND EVERYONE!!
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