The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry. – Ernest Hemingway
Have you ever heard the theory that a bone, when broken, becomes even stronger when it heals? I don’t know if that is true or not, but it gives me hope that what was once broken can not only mend, but be stronger as a result.
When I think of all the “broken” things that I have had to ‘fix’ in my life, it fills me with a familiar sadness…
A Broken Body….
Some of these things were as a result of my pain, some of them were despite of my pain – but ALL of these things have caused great suffering in my life, and that is something that I have spent a good part of the past ten years trying to repair. Time doesn’t heal these wounds, it is what you DO with the time that truly matters.
Not only do these memories bring back sadness, but they also confirm my courage and strength. I can look back and honestly say I GOT THROUGH IT ALL! I might not have gotten through it unscathed, but I have gotten through it nevertheless, and that is something to celebrate… I DID IT!! I found the fortitude, the determination and the bravery to face life head on, and pick up the broken fragments. THAT WAS ME! I am the one who methodically assembled the particles in a row, and pondered how they would ever be put back together. NOBODY BUT ME!! I am the one then took these pieces…. one at a time…. and started to place them back together again. I CAN DO IT!!
I am the one who can now look back at what once was destroyed, and appreciate that those things are whole again….
Ironically I broke my ring finger once, many years ago. It is the same finger I wore a symbol of love, fidelity, and everlasting devotion on. Both broken….. Both fixed….
My body is still very much broken,
But my hope is that the old adage rings true,
That everything tends to be stronger at the broken places.
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