Someday’s when the load gets a little too much to bear, we have friends and family that are willing to lift us up, and carry half the load.
The past few days have been that way for me. And I am LEARNING to hand over the things I can’t handle. It is easy to shut out the rest of the world when you have a chronic illness… come on… admit it… I am not the only person who puts walls up…. right? We feel GUILTY at times when we ask for help!…… but I am starting to learn that I am doing a disservice to those who love me by NOT letting them in!
Today, instead of feeling guilty about not being able to do the laundry, or put the dishes away, or even getting out of bed, I propose you think about something…… Before you build a wall and automatically say “I’m fine” or “I can do it later”, think about the HONOR YOU FEEL WHEN YOU ARE ABLE TO HELP SOMEONE ELSE!!! Isn’t it a GOOD feeling when you are of service to someone you care about? When you great-aunt Doris got her wisdom teeth out, didn’t YOU make her some Jello and fluff her pillows? When your second cousin Jane had triplets, WHO was there to bring her a casserole and diapers? When your best friend got married, wasn’t it you who planned the BEST SHOWER OF THE CENTURY? When you see the proverbial old lady crossing the street…. don’t you just automatically take her by the arm and get her to the other side, out of harm’s way?
I know I am being a bit silly… but you get the picture….. We usually help others in spite of the way we feel…. and life is about GIVE AND TAKE…. not GIVE AND SUFFER SILENTLY….. It is an HONOR for us to help those that we love….. So why wouldn’t the people in our lives feel the same way when they are of service to us?
Today, before you struggle with the decision on whether or not to ask someone for help, or accept an offer that has already been made…. please stop for a moment and think about the honor and privilege that YOU might end up taking away from someone else by NOT letting them in………
I am a very proud woman, and I will be the first to say that I struggle with this…. but just for today I am making the promise that I’m going to accept help gracefully and graciously….. It is THAT exchange of energy that makes the world go round…..